For the sake of venting these troubled thoughts, I wanted to post a quick thought on polarity and the divisiveness that has become so clearly prevalent in our current society, especially here in the US with our very-divided politics. People (myself included) are quick to jump at each other’s throats, viciously arguing who’s right and who’s wrong, whether it’s global warming, comparing science and religion, and the list goes on. Here’s my thought on it: as of right now, it doesn’t matter who is right, because neither side is listening to the other.
Currently, we have two halves of a nation, with most people in both sides being mostly good—yes, we all have varying degrees of flaws, but there’s more good than bad or we wouldn’t have the comforts of modern society and times of self-enjoyment both on our own and with others—and the division runs very narrowly down the middle path, so that both sides have more or less the same pull and influence to affect our nation’s path. As a direct result of the weight of their influences, both opinions matter equally, because they both have a say in the matter. Unfortunately, a fact itself does not make a human decision, the human acceptance of said fact or statement persuades the person towards acting on said fact. Perhaps this is an advantage in gray-area scenarios, where things get too complicated to work on binaries. At the end of the day, though, it all comes down to successful communication and its consequential mutual understanding. Why is it, though, that people can often seem “so stubborn”?
Opposing sides are exposed to different things, different people, different shows, different views and lifestyles, even if several of them might intercept. So we have to understand that the path that led us to understand something and seeing it as factual is not going to be the same path for everybody, even if they all have ways to get there. We have to understand this instead of yelling at the other person why they’re wrong. Indeed, it often proves to be highly frustrating, but we’re at different points towards understanding a particular topic, whether it’s different points in the same path or completely different paths, but they can all still lead to the same spot. We have to listen to see where they are and place ourselves in their shoes too. Don’t enter an argument with a mentality of, “I’m right.” Enter it with a mentality of, “I wonder what they think,” and be open to understanding. If you didn’t learn anything of value, you didn’t listen hard enough, because it’s not what they say, it’s why they say it and how they got there.